Hey Miss Adventure,

I was wondering if you would be able to tell me. What I am looking for is, how would a guy who is curious about the lifestyle get into it?  I am not sure if I would be dom, sub, or switch, and I am not sure how far I am willing to go.  Unless you're looking for someone to train, which would be awesome, but otherwise, if you could tell me how to find someone, that would be really helpful. - Kinkster Lifestyler

Dear KL,

Miss A is flattered, but presently, she's pleasantly over-served.  Back to your question....  Ask a bank robber why they rob banks and they'll say -that's where the money is.  People are much the same way, you need to leave your home and open an account in person to connect.  And I don't mean email account.  Put some "life" into your lifestyle search and show up.  Luckily, the Boston area offers plenty of great opportunities to meet other live, like-minded folks; together you can work out all the juicy details.  Try the kink-infused venue Sinomatic held the third Saturday monthly at Machine (myspace.com/sinomatic66).   A sensually stylish crowd, thoroughly modern music, friendly atmosphere and tasty drinks all mix for a simmering erotic atmosphere so delicious, you'll need a fork.  Be sure to check the website for dress code requirements. For more cowbell with your BDSM quest, there is New England's only rock fetish night, Wicked, held the first Friday of the month at Castillo's Night Club in Everett, Massachusetts.  Keeping the energy high and the tunes cranked, leather clad DJ Paulie and Wicked have made the rock freak scene the hard way for nearly a year now with painfully hip fashion shows (ever see two Asian school girls in cool t-shirts cat fighting?  It's WILD!), ground-breaking fetish beauty pageants, sexy freebies and one huge smoking gargoyle. You've got to see it to believe it (myspace.com/fetishrockdj).  So, go enjoy and you're sure to find someone who can help you answer all your OTHER questions.

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