Dear Dr. Lovemonkey,
My boyfriend of 10 months used to keep pictures of his former girlfriends in a photo album in his living room visible for all to see. A couple of months back, I told him how I thought he was stuck in the past somewhat. I didn’t ask him to remove the pictures, but I said they seemed to indicate he wasn’t ready to give full attention to our relationship. He didn’t totally agree with my assessment, but he didn’t argue about it, either. A couple of weeks after this discussion, the pictures were no longer there. Why do you think this happened?
_Gayle D.
Dear Gayle,
It sounds to Dr. Lovemonkey like your boyfriend listened to what you had to say, and, thoughtfully, decided to remove the pictures. He may still not agree that he was stuck in the past, but he obviously wants to please you and perhaps show that he doesn’t want this to become an obstacle in your relationship. This is a very positive gesture. You shouldn’t try to analyze his motivations other than concluding that he cares about you. It’s all good, Gayle, and you should be happy.
Getting (a) head
Dear Dr. Lovemonkey,
I have a good friend who I work with, and although I like her very much (in a platonic sense), she seems a little overambitious. She recently got a very good promotion. Myself and maybe one other person at work happen to know that she got it by blowing her boss. I don’t want to endanger our friendship, but I’m wondering if there is something I should say or do about this.
_J.H.
Dear J.H.,
Ah yes, another Fellatio Alger tale. Do nothing. These “job promotions” have been going on ever since men, who somehow lack conscience and judgment, moved into supervisory jobs. If she is more ambitious than talented, her oral escapades could prove her undoing. And, if there is any real justice in the world, the boss might himself one day be blown out of the water, so to speak.
Getting wet
Dear Dr. Lovemonkey,
What kind of swimsuit do men like best on a woman?
_Janny, 19
Dear Janny,
The real answer is that men tend to not have a preference in swimsuits. They are far more focused on the removal of the bathing suit than the wearing of the bathing suit.
Back off
Dear Dr. Lovemonkey,
I’ve been with a wonderful girl for more than two years. We’ve had a great, fun relationship, and I have very strong feelings for her. About a month ago, she said she needed “some space” to figure things out. The first week after this abrupt split, I sent her flowers and gifts each day. I really love her and was going to ask her to marry me later this year. I sent e-mails, messages, and letters. On reflection, I think I overdid it. We are supposed to meet for coffee next week to “catch up.” How do I tell her that I am the man for her? I love her so much, and I want to be with her forever.
_Rex
Dear Rex,
Indeed, you did overdo it. Back off, give her space, and give her time. You are at the stage where she wants to figure out some things on her own, so there’s little you can do. Show here that you’ll give her the space. Heartbreak is tough. Good luck.
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