This is not really a question about sex, but I couldn’t think of any other gay person who could give me a reasonable answer: am I a homophobe if I make certain jokes regarding gayness? For instance, if I say, “The Olympics are gay,” or ask, “Why are you so gay?” I don’t feel as though I’m a homophobe. I know and like gay people and I’m for gay civil rights and gay marriage. Also, if I hear somebody call a homosexual person names in an angry or blatantly derogatory manner I get upset. So can I call my buddy gay if he tells me he uploaded a Phil Collins CD on his computer, or should I just call him a dumbshit instead?
— Fine With Fags, Really
Officially, FWFR? It’s so not okay to use “gay” as a synonym for lame. When you use “gay” like that, you’re reinforcing a cultural prejudice against gay people — I mean duh, right? You may not be a homophobe, but using that expression is homophobic, and when you use it you’re helping to sustain the prejudice that deprives your gay friends of their civil rights and marriage rights.
Unofficially, FWFR? I don’t care what you do. Most of the gay people I know use “that’s so gay” the same way you do, and the few times I’ve overheard strangers using the expression, people who may or may not have been gay, I had to concede the point: the thing they were tagging as so gay was, in fact, so gay.
Finally, FWFR, a buddy who uploads a Phil Collins CD on his computer isn’t a dumbshit, he’s a douchebag. Please make a note of it.
Confidential to everybody: “Pearl necklace” is out. “Cheney” is in. Pass it on.
