Drop the loser
Dear Dr. Lovemonkey,
I’ve been going out with Larry for a little more than a year, and he recently called me to describe a situation in which he “almost” cheated. He ran into an old girlfriend and she invited him back to her place. He said what she had in mind was obvious. He added that he didn’t go because he “had some schoolwork” (he’s in his first year of graduate school). He didn’t say that he cared too much about me to even consider cheating. He then asked what I would have done if he had taken his ex up on her proposal. I said I would have broken up with him. He called that “an overreaction.” I find this all rather hurtful and confusing. What do you think?
_Very Disappointed
Dear Very,
Dump this loser right away. Dr. Lovemonkey thinks Larry was trying to introduce you to the notion that he is ready, willing, and able to cheat on you, and he’s hoping that you are as thoughtless and insensitive as he is. You deserve better than this jerk. Tell him to go and to never darken your towels again.
Make a move?
Dear Dr. Lovemonkey,
I’m a 31-year-old female who has regular contact with a new co-worker, an 18-year-old male who is very, very cute. I have very strong feelings for him, but wonder if I should just make a move and have sex with him as soon as possible (this is what I’m thinking). Or should I give him some support in a motherly/big sister sort of way. My sense is that he could use some of that as well. I’m not sure which way to go.
_“Betty”
Dear “Betty,”
You should find out if this guy has similar (lustful) feelings for you before making any sort of move. This is especially if you value your job, because if you come on to someone at work and it is unwanted, it would be called “sexual harassment” and a possible reason for dismissal. The age difference doesn’t make a whole lot of difference to me, but it may to the young man. It could also be a source of intimidation. So be very careful and make sure you have a good idea of what this co-worker is interested in before doing something that could cause a problem.
Shut your yap
Dear Dr. Lovemonkey,
One of the women with whom I work just had a face lift procedure. Apparently, the doctor really botched it, and quite frankly, she looks like a baked potato. Everybody at work has been talking about this, unfortunately, behind her back. What should we say about it?
_Co-worker
Dear Co-worker,
Why is there any reason for you and your co-workers to say anything? Say nothing, you moron. You may say something like, “Hey, have you lost weight? You look great.” You could also engage in a “conspiracy” among your co-workers to make her feel better. Do you want to be the cause of another person’s pain or discomfort? Dr. Lovemonkey would hope not. So, the best policy for you and your friends at work is to keep your mouths shut.
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