Show stopper
Dear Dr. Lovemonkey,
I was recently a bridesmaid at a good friend’s wedding. It was a great event, but I made a bit of a mess, drinking too much at the hotel bar during the reception. I behaved badly with a relative of the groom’s. A number of the guests witnessed this, including, much to my embarrassment, members of the family of my friend, the bride. I don’t remember what happened, but later, when my friend told me about some of it and expressed her disappointment, I acknowledged my responsibility and apologized profusely. Is there anything else I can do to make things like they were? I know that she and her family are both wary of me.
_Humiliated
Dear Humiliated,
There isn’t very much you can do. There were too many witnesses to your faux pas. On the other hand, you have wisely apologized and acknowledged how you messed up. The only other thing you could do is to tell your friend that you might have a serious drinking problem (even though you probably aren’t worried about it), and are considering getting help (even though you probably aren’t). That would at least make your friend a bit more sympathetic.
Make the move
Dear Dr. Lovemonkey,
I’m a high school junior and there’s a guy I like who mentioned in passing an upcoming summer ball. The problem is that he hasn’t actually asked me to go with him. I really would like to go, but would it be appropriate for me to bring this issue up with him?
_Anna
Dear Anna,
Just about all of the possible scenarios make it completely appropriate for you to bring this up. It could be that he’s “polling the delegation,” checking who is willing to go with him and who isn’t. Tell him, “Hey, remember that summer ball you asked me about? I’d love to go, but I need time to prepare. So, are we still on for it?” If he backs off at that point, forget the schmuck. The guy might be a jerk, but he also might just be shy.
You animal.
Dear Dr. Lovemonkey,
I know that this is really sick, but I’m really intrigued with the though of inter-species sex — you know, like with a dog or something. I’ve read stuff that compares gay sex with inter-species sex, and figure that hey, if gay sex is okay, how come not inter-species sex?
_L.T.
Dear L.T.,
There is no comparison, you idiot. When adult people of the same sex mutually consent, there is no problem from Dr. Lovemonkey’s perspective (just like with heteros). The issue about going “inter-species” (or into sex with minors, for that matter) is that there is no consent. How does a dog, a cat, or a horse “consent”? Think about this for a while and avoid watching old episodes of Mr. Ed.
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