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Doggie benefits

WHO BENEFITS?

Dear Dr. Lovemonkey,
I am a female senior in college and am good friends with a guy I've known since high school. We've become even closer over these past few years. Earlier this semester, we went out for a few drinks and ended up making out back at my apartment. We decided not to talk about it and to pretend that nothing ever happened. A few weeks later, we did the same thing. We tried to pretend nothing happened, but things started to get awkward and weird. The last three times we've had sex and slept together. When I finally pushed the issue and started to talk about it with him, his idea was that we should just be "friends." I thought that was fine, and slowly things got better and less weird. Then, a couple of weeks ago, he and I got 'faced and ended up sleeping together again. I've talked to a lot of my friends about this and they mostly think that I should set limits and refuse to sleep with him again. What I'm worried about is losing my longtime best friend. It seems that we've set this thing in motion and to try to stop it abruptly could really damage a long and good friendship. What do you think?
Lady Margaret

Dear Lady,

Here's a news bulletin: the scenario you describe is what, in the days of yore, when Dr. Lovemonkey was an undergraduate, was once perceived to be the beginning of a real love affair. Old friends become closer, and they eventually become intimate. It seems obvious that you both care deeply about each other. What seems to be throwing you off course is the "hooking up/friends with benefits" culture now flourishing on college campuses. Perhaps you are confused by your culture. I think that you two should go for it. If he's a bit more cautious than you, be patient. GO FOR IT! And, P.S., try it sans liquor.

SHAGGY STORY

Dear Dr. Lovemonkey,
My boyfriend and I had had a fight over my dog last week. I've got a Chihuahua, and she is my baby. She sleeps at the foot of my bed, and I feed her scraps of my food from my fork. I know it's a little much for most people, and my boyfriend is really grossed out by some of this. My dog is really scared of him. Last night, she was sitting by me on the sofa, and I petted her head. A few minutes later, I playfully reached out to rub my boyfriend's head, and he got really upset. He said my hand "reeked of dog." He intentionally terrifies her by growling and barking at her and by pinching her on the nose. I wish he could learn to accept that I love my dog and am not going to change just to satisfy him. This has come to the point of almost breaking us up more than once, even though our relationship is otherwise very good. We can't even consider living together because of this one issue! What's the compromise here, so that we're both happy?
Dog Lover in Cumberland

Dear Dog,

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