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A kiddie-diddling riddle

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'Sleepover? I thought you said rapeover!'

A BAD IDEA

Dear Dr. Lovemonkey,

My name is Sheila and I'm 17 years old. I met a guy through a dating website. He thinks I'm 18 and I actually will be 18 in five months. We have arranged to meet. We get on really well and we talk and text each other all the time. He told me he has strong feelings for me but I'm not too sure. I've never had a serious boyfriend and I'm also a virgin. I'm going to stay at his house overnight, as it's what I want to do. Obviously I'm nervous, but I think if I tell him my real age he will forget about me and be upset because I have told a little white lie to him. I really want things to work between us. He's 23. Should I tell him the truth about my age and do you think it would be stupid of me to lose my virginity to him? He also thinks I've had sex on many occasions.

Sheila

Dear Sheila,

By arranging this overnight visit, you are putting yourself in great jeopardy. You are 17 and all that you know about him is what he has told you online. Could it be that he has lied to you, just like you have lied to him? Back off and cancel your overnight plans. Make arrangements to spend some time with this guy in a more neutral setting, just hanging out with him seeing if you get along. When you meet him face to face, you may find that you feel that he is honest and does have a genuine interest in you and vice versa. Or you may find that you still have suspicions about him and do not like him as much as when you are merely communicating from a distance. Do not be in such a rush to lose your virginity. Maybe when you've spent some time with him you'll be 18 and have a better grasp of the situation. Forget about the overnight — it's a very bad idea.

UNFIXABLE

Dear Dr. Lovemonkey,

I'm a 25-year-old gay male. I live in a small town, close to my family, who aren't very open-minded. They all know I am gay and even had a boyfriend, but they keep bringing up all the girls I "liked" while I was in middle and high school. What they don't realize is that my true crushes were always guys. Every time something comes on the news about homosexuality or something comes along that makes them think they can "fix" me, they mention it to me. This gives me the feeling that their love for me is connected to how well I fit into their view of what is right and wrong. How do I deal with this sort of emotional harassment?

Frustrated

Dear Frustrated,

You're gay and there is nothing broken that needs to be "fixed." On the other hand, your family could use some "fixing." I would suggest that ask them to explain why some people are right-handed and some left-handed and if there's something wrong with one or the other's "hand orientation." Ask them about a food you hate but they love and if one of you is wrong or right or just different and isn't that okay? They'll probably not get it. After all, we have a governor here in Vo Dilun who doesn't get it.

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