Dr. Lovemonkey: May 15 2009

Dr. Lovemonkey: Burned and Brrrrr-ed

Dr Love Monkey

Dr. Lovemonkey: 'Net Wait

When you've loved someone, those feelings never totally disappear but they do fade, with time. Because you are holding a torch for your ex and refusing to fully accept the reality of what has happened, you are inadvertently prolonging your misery. Here's something that you could try to do. I'm assuming that your ex was not perfect and that there were things about him that you did not always like. Make a list of those things and study it carefully. Whenever you're feeling like you're missing him, check out the list. And, while you're checking out the list, think of other guys you know who do not manifest these negative qualities. Know that there are a lot of people out there who you might click with. Try to get involved with other people (not in a romantic way — you're not ready for that yet) and other activities. Time is your friend.

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