IT FEELS TO ME THAT THE QUEER COMMUNITIES HAVE BECOME VERY DIFFERENT — IT FEELS LIKE THE CONVERSATION IS SHIFTING FOR EVERYBODY TO THE TOPIC OF GENDER. I think in queer communities, yes, there is a rise in the focus toward gender. But that's in queer communities. That's not necessarily LGBT communities. It's somewhat generational, it's somewhat race, it's somewhat class. It's certainly sexuality. These things, you know — how free and sex-positive is a person? How willing are they to bend the rules of gender or just simply be okay with someone else bending the rules of gender? That still is a problem for many LGBT communities. But, generationally, the queer community is the outer margins of the American culture whose youth is just now coming to go, "I'm fine with gay marriage, so what?" And that's a big jump for a group of youth to say. Well, the outer margins have jumped just as far. You know? So there's still a big gap between the queer community and the straight community. And by the straight community, I'm talking about people who are more or less, "Well, let's not talk about sex. I don't want to think about it. And gender, come on. No, no!" And that's straight. And that means there are straight lesbians and gay men. . . . Really what I think is going on is we're getting back to that old "Dungeons & Dragons" [idea] of order versus chaos. And queer represents a faction of chaos, and straight represents a faction of order. It's like, when George W. Bush was president, I mean, people! He used to say, "I'm never going to change my mind," and you'd go, "Oh dear! Oh dear! Thank you for warning me!"
YOU GIVE SOME REALLY BEAUTIFUL ADVICE TO YOUR DAUGHTER AND YOUR GRANDCHILDREN AT THE END OF THE BOOK. DO YOU HAVE ANY ADVICE FOR QUEER AND TRANS FOLKS, AS WELL? Do whatever it takes to make your life more worth living, period: whether that's sexuality and gender, whether that's wearing a Star Trek uniform to work. Whatever the fuck it is, do it. No limits. Only one rule: don't be mean.
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